This post is part of Monday Musings, a series of reflective blog posts on professional growing pains from a millennial perspective. Scrolling through Instagram every Monday, I see many posts about Mondays and returning to the work week. Sometimes I laugh; sometimes I roll my eyes, but this week I had an a-ha moment(aren't those the best?). I came across the post below on instagram and realized, the Monday struggle is something to embrace, because it develops resiliency and grit while helping us uncover our strengths. I'll explain:
I was one of those people that procrastinated getting out of bed every. single. morning, especially on Mondays because I didn't enjoy the work I was doing. I wanted another job (notice I didn't say better job), one that was more aligned with my passion and purpose. I wanted to make more money, have a more flexible schedule and do more of what made me happy: working with millennials. Needless to say, I made the decision to stay until I figured it out. Fast forward a year later and I was still in the same position, with no clue on what direction I wanted to go in. However, once I adopted the practice of mindfulness, manifesting and meditation, everything began to change.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and our happiness.” ― Steven Covey
Many millennials take a reactive approach to their lives, focusing on what they "should" have, be, make and do and letting that dictate how they feel. Instead of operating in a mindful space understanding that we are in control of our happiness and being fully present in that reality. We become consumed by our thoughts, but rarely recognize that thoughts don't happen to us, they are generated by us. The way we act is a direct response to what we believe and by changing that perspective, we change the way we behave. My first six months at the job, I recall sitting on the train and telling myself, " You should be in another role, you deserve more, you can do more, you're smarter, you can make 10K more in this industry..." By the time I got into the office, my day was already ruined. Imagine this happening 5 days a week, every week for months. Just thinking about it makes me exhausted.
Through reading, I learned something very powerful. Our reality is created by self-talk, what we say to ourselves and think about, and visualization, the way we see ourselves in different scenarios. Our self-talk scripts are on auto-pilot as we react to situations in our usual conditioned manner. When I changed my perspective, the way I behaved started to change. Once I became conscious of my scripts through meditation, I was able to rewire the thoughts in my head; once I replaced my victim visualizations with manifest journaling, I created my visions from the inside out. I got the courage to stop working full-time, clarify where I wanted to take my business and even improve my relationships with people around me. By combining these introspective exercises each day, I was able to figure out what I valued, wanted to achieve, how I want to feel and what sort of person I want to be.
Thoughts truly become things, because who we are right now is a result of thoughts, visualizations and self-talk we've had in the past. When you look in the mirror do you like what you see? I have to constantly remind myself that I'm a work in progress and that the reflection that stares back at me is not the finished product. The difference is that I made a choice to be active in the process of shaping the circumstances I live in and the person I am becoming. When you find that peace, you naturally begin to attract the things that you need to accomplish your goals.
Doing something you hate is the worst way to waste your time, because those are fleeting moments that will never return. Every moment is a new beginning, even horrible Mondays. So we must make the choice to create the life we want, by deciding what that life is. Approach each day with a new attitude and the effort to be deliberately happy. [Tweet "Happiness is a choice. Contentment is not complacency."] One day you will look back on this year or period in your life and be able to pull out all the lessons and defining moments that changed you forever, instead of feeling like Beyonce in that elevator: helpless. Hindsight is 20/20.
Cheers to your journey fellow millennials! Let me know what you've been struggling with in the comments below.
Here are some of my favorite resources for meditation and manifest journaling: